• Scrubbles@poptalk.scrubbles.tech
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    19 days ago

    These idiots take other people being proud of who they are as a personal attack against males. I debate if it’s insecurity or ego to think it’s all about them. You can be proud to be male, it’s just kind of dickish since society has literally never cared about you being male.

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      19 days ago

      I do find it quite weird when people claim to be proud of something for which they did nothing to achieve it. Like, his shirt literally says that he was born male. I guess, he did manage to get successfully born, so uh good job?

      • i_stole_ur_taco@lemmy.ca
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        19 days ago

        I’ve never been prouder of that time I rolled 2 dice and got 12. A breathtaking, crowning achievement where all my years of hard work or education or whatever paid off.

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        19 days ago

        It’s a last resort.

        Nationality, race, sex all are things that can’t be taken away from you. Even the lowest of the low lives still can look down on mexicans, blacks, women because at least he’s not that!

        Attacking these last resorts by making them not matter, is an attack on the flimsy sense of self worth these people have. You can’t be proud to be a man if it doesn’t matter that you’re a man.

      • Willy@sh.itjust.works
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        18 days ago

        I mean chance/luck is a huge part of everything. Sure you can nudge things a bit here or there but you really shouldn’t be proud of anything you “accomplish” if you think about all the luck involved.

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      18 days ago

      In a hyper-individuelistic society where everyone is constantly being compared and judged, the feeling that you’re better than everyone else brings incredible relief. Of course the concept of being better than others is deeply flawed but you never learned to question these things. So how do you achieve the feeling? Study hard, lift others around you, save your money. Sure, but that takes years, and it’s hard work. So what if you’re inherently better than others-- that solves it. Race, language, gender, nationaliry… All things that cost you no effort. There’s another shortcut to these feelings. All you have to do to in order to become better than most of the population and get into to heaven is say that you believe the Bible. That’s it. Just gotta say you believe it and you’re in the club. Zero effort, all the dopamine. Supporting some sports team. Buying a particular car. Using what you buy to signal to others something about you. Bumper stickers, adding a ribbon to your profile picture, posting some cringe on LinkedIn, attention seeking on your birthday… All attempts to showcase how excellent you are with minimal effort.

      So if your entire sense of self worth is based on attributes about you which you were either born with or cost you no effort, you’ll want to support anyone who places importance on those things. Nationality, consumerism, race, gender, religion, etc.